What is Ecstatic Self: Spiritual Coaching?
A place to explore the intersection of identity, belonging, spirituality, sexuality, and living authentically
Who is Kaelan
Kaelan is a spiritual guide who has led meditations, coaching sessions, and yogic practices since 2008. He founded Ecstatic Self LLC during the pandemic of 2020; his client list ranges from CEOs of NFL teams to federal judges—from Ivy League tenured professors to leaders in healthcare startups.
He has written two books on personal growth and belonging (Journey to the Ecstatic Self & I Dreamt of Flight). Kaelan lived in a meditative ashram for 7 years, earned his advanced CRT 500 in yogic instruction, and has over 1/2-million followers on Ecstatic Self YouTube and other socials.
He has led corporate leadership and empathy workshops for top corporations like JP Morgan, TripAdvisor, KPMG, Bank of America, etc. He graduated magna cum laude from Northwestern University and lives in Washington, DC with his husband and pets.
Why Coach with Kaelan?
Road to Self
You are inherently whole, radiant, and powerful. You are an incarnation of divine energy in a human body. There is nothing you could ever do to separate yourself from that radiance.
This is our journey: to remember our divinity. The road to God and the road to self are one and the same. Together, we will walk through the areas of tension, blocks, and impediments that keep you from your cosmic, eternal truth.
I began my exploration of spirituality in a traditional yogic ashram. I took a guru, committed myself to years of hard work, and cultivated my desire to grow. Years later, I have now established a robust skill set to lead others on the journey of self-reconnection.
My journey has taken me to healing centers in India, the abodes of shamans in the Andes Mountains, and the universe within. Each step along my journey has brought me a greater set of tools to be able to assist you on yours.
I view myself as a guide, an usher, a doorman. I am here to walk beside you, point out some doorways, and invite you to step through. You are the one who does the work—you know the way home. I am just here to facilitate the exploration.
This is life-changing, transformational work. You will not be the same person at the end of the journey that you were at the beginning. “The big question is,” to quote Joseph Cambell, “are you going to be able to say a hearty YES to your adventure?”
Journey to the Ecstatic Self
This guidebook walks you through the realms of soulfulness, shadow exploration, and identity dreaming to arrive in a land of wholeness. Through exploring these exercises, stories, and meditations with Kae, you will uncover your wild, radiant self — the intrinsically aligned person that you were always meant to be. The “you” that already exists deep down at your core. Lace up those boots and get ready to Journey to the Ecstatic Self.
I Dreamt of Flight: A Fantasy Novel
18 year old Bondi Ashborne never knew he could breathe fire, never knew that the government was rounding up people like him and slamming them into concentration camps. No, all he knows is that life as a gay, quarter-dragon in a fully-human town couldn’t be harder for him.
When fate forces him to flee his home, he ends up encountering other Mythicals like himself: enigmatic naga,…
Perhaps you found Kaelan through YouTube — or maybe you encountered him through one of his books — regardless of how your paths crossed, now is your chance to join him and other soul journeyers on a four-night retreat in pastoral Vermont.
At this wintery gathering, you will embark on an adventure of soulfully reconnecting with your innermost self. Through calming meditations, heartwarming conversations, starlit hikes, chanting, and social bonding, you and the other pilgrims will laugh, cry, and “crack wide open.”
You will be nestled in the snowy landscape of the beautiful Willow Retreat Center, where Kaelan and his husband lovingly support you through this spiritual transformation experience, guiding you toward tranquility and personal growth.
Sacred fire ceremony
Practices to connect with nature spirits and deities
Initiation into meditation techniques
Personal narrative cultivation
Spiritual artwork creation
Partnered vulnerability and connection exercises
and many more…
All meals are included from Thursday evening until Monday morning.
Participation is limited due to space constraints of the venue; all rooming will be shared.
If interested, please fill out an application stating your intent and why you think this retreat is coming at the perfect time for you.
Limited scholarships are available for those wishing to attend but currently experiencing financial hardship.
This workshop will be co-facilitated by Kaelan’s husband, Anthony Gutierrez, a leader in HIV and LGBTQ+ spaces for almost 20 years. While there will be a strong focus on the queer-masculine experience, this program is open to all expressions of identity, gender, and sexuality
What clients have to say
How do sessions work?
Kaelan meets with individuals for approximately 1-hour a week. The meetings are virtual or in-person (if local to Washington, DC). He asks for a 3-month commitment to give time for notable growth. Change takes time, and having 12 weeks together allows that change to blossom and mature. He assigns daily homework that will take approximately 30-45 minutes to complete.